Contemplative and Rambling
Apr. 27th, 2003 11:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
As I was IMming at Robin, who was too busy doing her hum paper / avoiding her hum paper to notice, LJ is very much a different kind of Time Suck from the others out there: the Shmack, the video games, chasing each other with things made out of duct tape both large and small. Already, LJ seems to be a place where one can talk about feelings. This doesn't sound remarkable until you think about the day to day interactions of Easties. Feelings that I remember people sharing recently: good, bad, sleep-depped, glad that thesis is over, working, avoiding work. People constantly are concealing their anger, their annoyedness, their excitement, their sexuality, just everything. I don't think we're trying to be hyper-rational, but it certainly looks that way a lot of the time, and the emotions that people feel either internally or at each other get swept under the rug. How much of that is okay? It really depends on the person. But, something inside me is aching right now. I want to talk to people and listen to people. I want a conversation to go on for hours into the night talking about home or family or happiness or truth or religion without dissolving into something about definitions or maps from r-n to who gives a crap. This is a place of growth, but that growth shouldn't always have to be inward.
This all reminds me of a conversation that I had in the lounge this weekend. I was arguing with someone who said that there were no redeeming features of Microsoft Word. They said that after Mudders graduated, they would never have use for a program that couldn't edit equations and didn't have math character sets. They said that Mudders, when left up to their own devices, wouldn't read non-technical things. It bugged me at the time, but now I see it even more. There are places in every person for the math and the science, but if you let it rule your life, control who you are and what you are to become, you haven't learned anything from here. If you leave here unbalanced in your knowledge base, you haven't taken anything of value from this giant neo-Mayan school.
I may be off base. I may be ridiculous. I may be speaking for a minority of one, but tough. Right now, I feel starved for emotional connection, and that very much doesn't mean I need a relationship. We are all adrift here, alone but together, and sometimes, you just need to talk to a fellow traveller.
This all reminds me of a conversation that I had in the lounge this weekend. I was arguing with someone who said that there were no redeeming features of Microsoft Word. They said that after Mudders graduated, they would never have use for a program that couldn't edit equations and didn't have math character sets. They said that Mudders, when left up to their own devices, wouldn't read non-technical things. It bugged me at the time, but now I see it even more. There are places in every person for the math and the science, but if you let it rule your life, control who you are and what you are to become, you haven't learned anything from here. If you leave here unbalanced in your knowledge base, you haven't taken anything of value from this giant neo-Mayan school.
I may be off base. I may be ridiculous. I may be speaking for a minority of one, but tough. Right now, I feel starved for emotional connection, and that very much doesn't mean I need a relationship. We are all adrift here, alone but together, and sometimes, you just need to talk to a fellow traveller.
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I know I came here because of the possiblity that I might balance CS with acting; I can't speak for other people, but I've seen several messages of this sort on LJ. The resistance speaks . . .
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Date: 2003-04-27 11:52 pm (UTC)I very much agree. Thankfully, Stanford is an environment that fosters such sorts of conversations, or at least can, to a certain extent. At least, I suspect more than Harvey Mudd.
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Date: 2003-04-28 12:03 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-04-28 12:55 am (UTC)Man, I miss those guys. They're gone know, but I'm sure there are others like them around.
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Date: 2003-04-28 12:24 am (UTC)In anycase, figure this one out and you'll be doing better than I ever did.
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Date: 2003-04-28 01:11 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-04-28 01:30 am (UTC)Hey, sign me up for one of those.
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Date: 2003-04-28 01:58 am (UTC)More to be said, but I should sleep. If I can't sleep, maybe I'll come back and say it.
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Date: 2003-04-28 09:13 pm (UTC)There's also the persistent cult of invincibility. Nobody here is willing to admit that they have problems, doubts, fears, emotions at all. It's a sign of weakness. We're supposed to be robots, right? Amazing science machines, able to balance reactions, analyze circuits, evaluate surface integrals, and code an OS, all over breakfast. It's bullshit, but the mentality is there.
Granted, it has its values. It usually helps people survive. But if I had one complaint about Mudd, it would be that this social structure is not supportive enough of the kind of people this school is purportedly training.
Enough of that rant. I wrote way too much on it last November, and I'm not gonna revisit it.
LiveJournal is an interesting beast. You are right that it is a place which allows for more openness and honesty. Part of this is the ability to carefully choose your audience, something that shmack and the dinnertable lack. I have found, however, that there is a price that comes with it. I sometimes find myself subconsciously tailoring my posts to my audience - I end up writing for the people who read my journal, rather than for myself. It's not always true, and in fact often I can keep my journal suitably self-centered :) But it also happens, on occasion, that I end up not writing the things I want to write because I am too aware of my audience. Granted, the same thing happens on shmack, but shmack is not intended to be personal writing.
I don't remember where else I was gonna go. I should shut up and do some work.
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Date: 2003-04-28 11:43 am (UTC)i think you'll find that this is more than a function of eastie-people, but of people in large groups in general. although we are here with many common purposes, there are lots of people with lots of different views. some people just arent comfertable with certain feelings, and sometimes just not comfertable when they come from any but a small group of people. do not dispair, there are lots of cool people around, and plenty to talk to. i hope my "mad rants" dont deter you from talking to me... i try to be as non-threatening as possible :)